i was browsing through today's papers, and i fuond an article which made alot of sense.
you may think that love is easy. With all the sweet-nothings, 'i love you's' , hugs and kisses means love to you, you may want to think again.
(this article is in chinese, sincere apologies to those who can't apprehend chinese.)
爱， 不很简单 与同事们在下班后痛快K歌， 把平日烦恼，不愉快，都唱到九霄云外去。这样的一种发泄， 效果不错。 只是隋之而来的空虚与失落，杀伤力还真不能忽视。
陶喆 '爱很简单'里有一句：用最真诚的心， 把爱变得简单。
'我们在一起吧！' ， 并不简单。但，在没有结婚证书的约束， 没有婚姻包袱的情况下， 两人对彼此的责任， 没那么重。 斗斗嘴，闹闹别扭；意见分歧，大不了就分手。
分手的痛楚虽然是难过的， 却是可以复原的， 因为下段恋情总是值得让人期待的。
'我们结婚吧！' 更是不简单。两个决定生活在一起的人， 只有一起走下去的决心是不够的。
生活上的大大小小的烤烟， 需要两个人的互相配合来一起面对。 斗嘴，闹别扭， 或许会给婚姻带来不愉快；意见分歧， 想法有冲突，大吵架， 婚姻有可能因此出现小裂痕。 当裂痕越来越严重时，就只好离婚收场。
离婚的痛楚， 我想， 也是难过的， 而且可能还会掺杂对婚姻的失望与恐惧。
离婚的伤口会因时间而愈合，但是那失望与恐惧的疤痕，却可能是以后感情路上的一道高墙，难以翻越，难以克服。
执子之手，与子偕老。这， 不简单。
what it says makes alot of sense, loving someone is not such an easy task.
not just 'i love you', 'i miss you' does the job, love is something that needs two people to uphold.
just like how it takes two hands to clap.
the difference btwn breakups and divorces are the aftermath: breakups heal fast, cos there's always another relationship waiting for you to embark on. but as for divorces, although the wound heals pretty fast, but there are also 'side effects' like disappointment and fear of marriages, and that the scar would always be there, becoming an obstruction in your life.
just like what the article mentioned, '执子之手，与子偕老。这， 不简单.'
♥ Clararararara
7.4.08
7.4.08